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virtue, attractiveness and desireability to other people - that was elaborated in Point 2 and that of joining a select group considered to have some special value and by joining to have this special value yourself. The diff- erence may perhaps be explained by an analogy of two wealthy art lovers One man buys Rafael's, Rembrandt etc. and
· builds a beautiful art gallery and exhibits them to the public as the "Jones Collection" and "Jones Gallery" there- by enjoying the effect on other people who come to see the pictures and can appreciate his discriminating artistic taste, enjoy the building he has built, and praise him for making it all available to the public. The other man, how- ever, buys just as fine pictures but houses them in his home where HE can be part of the artistic world they rep- resent. HE can be greatly satisfied in the joy of owning this beauty, of knowing that others would like to have it. In short, by buying and owning he partakes of and becomes a part of something which he himself realizes has worth and value and he knows that others feel the same way about it (I'm not referring to the monetary worth or value, but the ageless artistic value of beauty of scene and of interpretation)
RELIEF FROM THE REQUIREMENTS OF MASCULINITY: In our culture great demands are made on people, particularly on men. The male is supposed to be aggressive, forthright, bold, cour- ageous, compeditive, strong, dominant, boss, etc Now as pointed out in the beginning these are not necessarily MALE qualities, they are merely expected of the dominant sex in a patriarchal society. All of us meet them to some extent, but I'm sure that all of us get tired of them too. It appears to be a well aceepted medical fact that men do not live as long as women and that the diseases that pick them off are usually of the stress type such as heart at- tacks, ulcers, hemorrages, etc. These are the "wound stripes" of our civilization as someone has called them. Men try all manner of means to get relaxation from these tensions. They play golf, bowl, go to the gym, take turkish baths, drink, run about with women other than their wives, smoke excessively, gamble, etc. In fact, most male vices and